In a marriage I believe that it is an equal and a shared responsiblity between both the man and the woman. There is not one that walks infront of the other, but that they walk side by side, together. I do believe that there are certain rights that each has, but all in all they are one and should make decisions together. For example the father's job is to provide, preside, and protect, while the mother's is to nurture. This may seem unfair, but the thought of raising children or haveing to work outside the home are both full time jobs. They both are equally resposible and they both are just as important as the other. They can not have one without the other. The best way to put it is in an example of a canoe, there are two people working together side by side, yet someone needs to take charge and be the one that will be the leader. The one that will stear the canoe. You can not have both people stearing, or else it will not go anywhere. The canoe will end up sitting in one place. Someone needs to take charge, yet they both have to work together toward a common goal. They first have to decide where they are going to end up going, they do this together, and then second they need to decide who will be the one that leads.
When in a relationship where the couple is just living together and there is no marriage involved, this could lead to some potential pain further down the road. As a couple living together they do not have to worry about divorce, yet they might end up breaking sometype of relationship between children. In todays world, it is ok to live with someone to "test" out the waters. This does not seem like a very good explaination for why they are doing this. First of all as just two people living together, there is no commitment involved in the realationship which can cause for an easy break up over a little fight, while in a marriage you learn to work things out. This can cause trouble if there are kids involved. Just like a divorce is so controversial, the break up of two people living together can also cause some pain to the children. This may seem like the easy way out, but do you really want to be that person that has to tell you kids that your boy/girlfriend is leaving and not coming back. This is not something that i ever want my children to go through!!! I never want them to feel like the did not have parents. Also as a couple living together how do they split up the responsibilities?? Who has what job, and what are they suppose to do?? Who nurtures, who provides??
This is becoming such a big thing to live together in the United States and in the World. States are now giving the same rights to these couples living together as they are to married couples. This does not seem fair, bacause as a married couple you have to work through your problems while the other couple just has to have one move out and the problem is fixed. There is nothing there to keep a man or a woman attached to their companion, except the fact that they might have children.
I do not believe that "testing" out by living together is they way to go about this. I believe that people should date and get into a serious relationship and learn about each other and then decide if it is right to get married. The trial marriage will most likly not work out and they will not most likely end up in a marriage, because it is so much easier to just live together!!
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